By Ustaz Yunus Salahudeen
"Show forgiveness, enjoin what is good, and turn away from the foolish ( ie don't punish them ).And if an evil whisper comes to you from Shaitan, then seek refuge with Allah.Verily ,He is All-Hearer, All knower. " Surah Al-A'raf Ayah 199-200. I always tell my brothers and sisters that when you live your life without anyone hurting, disappointing, disgracing or offending you then it means you never did anything worthy.
Before you continue reading this piece, I want to tell you that there are so many people who are buried daily, and their crime is that someone they offended couldn’t forgive them. There are innocent orphans and street children out there whose crime is that someone didn't forgive their parents.
The reality is that even as you read this piece, there may be someone you have blocked on whatsapp or facebook, or you have decided not to respond to his/her posts/messages and the person’s crime is that he/she is naughty, broke your heart, disappointed you or said something that really offended you. You aren’t talking to your roommate,co-wife, an old friend, a family member, your Ex - husband/wife because they offended you and you can’t forgive them.Yes, I really understand you; they hurt you. He/she is annoying, rude and not worthy to be part of your life. However, my questions are: do you expect someone to forgive you if you can’t forgive others? Do you think you have never offended anyone before?
"Say: "O 'Ibadi (My slaves ) who have transgressed against themselves (by committing evil deeds and sins )! Despair not of the Mercy of Allah :verily, Allah forgives all sins . Truly He is Oft -Forgiving, Most Merciful " Surah Az-Zumar Ayah 53. The beauty of life is that it comes with disappointments and offences from people you least expect.Unfortunately, some of us spend so much time on the disappointments and offences and end up becoming victims of circumstances. Remember this one thing always: holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.The fact is that the world is full of annoying, naughty and ungrateful people; you will always come across them during the gentle stroll of your life span here on earth, but the best thing to do is to deal with them with love and hate because of Allah and also with maturity.You can’t get everyone to behave like you. Never!
Hatred and intolerance have caused many of the world's problems and have solved none of them. We must learn to tolerate and forgive one another. We must have personal cemeteries where we can bury the faults of others and move on with life.
There are some people on this earth who when you treat them the way they are, they will forever remain the same; sometimes you need the love for the sake of Allah and ideal maturity to be with them. Their lives will never be better when you let them go (Asiah and Pharaoh examplary example ).I know so many names are racing through your mind as you read this piece; Yes, I have been there before to the extent that I felt like eliminating some of them from the earth, however, through prayers, love and maturity, today some of them are my best friends. It is never easy but it’s possible.it's said that true forgiveness is when you can say, "Thank you for that experience of life you avail me ."As you read this piece, I beseech you to take the pain and forgive that special person you have grudges with;unblock that friend and iron out your grievances. A great man once said that forgiveness is the sweet smell left by the flower on the bottom of the shoe which trampled it. It is the only needle that knows how to mend. Master the courage and apologize to that person you have offended. Life is too short and is for the living kindly live it well free of hatred for any body .
Ramadan Mukaraam!
May Allah make it easy for us to forgive and forget easily the shortcomings of others for the sake of Allah Ameen .
Comments
Post a Comment